We all change over time; some mellow with age while others just get increasingly angst-ridden. But delving into a personality change is psychotic stuff and I will restrict myself to simple things you thought were important to your belief system once.
Admittedly all change is good and if we refuse the gradual changes in our perspective, we let ourselves fall into a rot. I want to simply list the few things that have changed for me:
Earlier I judged people harshly who drank alcohol in any form, often extrapolating their fondness for alcohol as perversity of character. Now I understand that, as long as you are not a hardened alcoholics and most importantly can handle their drinks, it is fine to have some in social situations. Heck, my college mates will not believe it if they find out that I sip an occassional mocktail now.
Earlier, I sincerely believed that you fall in love only once and should be involved in a relationship only if you wish to marry that person. A recent experience has taught me that things aren’t that straight forward. Sometimes one does not get the things you wish for; even for no fault of yours. That’s life! However, If the time spent together creates beautiful memory and you can live the rest of your life in the thoughts of the time spend together, I dont believe we should hold back.
Earlier, I passionately hated smokers; considered it to be a disgusting habit. Now I just hate smoking, not the sucker at the other end of the cigarette. I just prefer that they keep their smoke out of my face.
Earlier I considered people with lesser intellectual abilities to be lowly mortals. That only enhanced my arrogant snobbish image. Now, when I have seen enough humble beings with far superior intellect, I have realized that it is not how much you know but rather how you use it. Though intelligence still remains a major "turn on" for me, I don’t despise the ones who do not special talent or abilities.
Earlier I had a low opinion about homosexuals and considered their sexual orientation as despicable. Now I think "to each their own". Everyones got one life to live. Let them live it on their terms. If he likes a he, so be it.
Earlier I believed that you should have your life planned out down to the last detail. You should have a clear idea of what you want to do in life and everything should fall in place sequentially, leading to your ultimate goal. Now, I know that to make God laugh, just tell him those plans. Things happen albeit for a reason and at time you are put on hold for much longer than you anticipated. You can only give it your best shot and hope for things to fall in place. But I still believe that my destiny is in my hands.
Earlier I believed in the importance of education and thought that you can never stop learning either in school or from personal experiences. More time you spent in academics always helped you in the long run. Now….wait a sec, I still believe that.
Haven’t you changed?
Admittedly all change is good and if we refuse the gradual changes in our perspective, we let ourselves fall into a rot. I want to simply list the few things that have changed for me:
Earlier I judged people harshly who drank alcohol in any form, often extrapolating their fondness for alcohol as perversity of character. Now I understand that, as long as you are not a hardened alcoholics and most importantly can handle their drinks, it is fine to have some in social situations. Heck, my college mates will not believe it if they find out that I sip an occassional mocktail now.
Earlier, I sincerely believed that you fall in love only once and should be involved in a relationship only if you wish to marry that person. A recent experience has taught me that things aren’t that straight forward. Sometimes one does not get the things you wish for; even for no fault of yours. That’s life! However, If the time spent together creates beautiful memory and you can live the rest of your life in the thoughts of the time spend together, I dont believe we should hold back.
Earlier, I passionately hated smokers; considered it to be a disgusting habit. Now I just hate smoking, not the sucker at the other end of the cigarette. I just prefer that they keep their smoke out of my face.
Earlier I considered people with lesser intellectual abilities to be lowly mortals. That only enhanced my arrogant snobbish image. Now, when I have seen enough humble beings with far superior intellect, I have realized that it is not how much you know but rather how you use it. Though intelligence still remains a major "turn on" for me, I don’t despise the ones who do not special talent or abilities.
Earlier I had a low opinion about homosexuals and considered their sexual orientation as despicable. Now I think "to each their own". Everyones got one life to live. Let them live it on their terms. If he likes a he, so be it.
Earlier I believed that you should have your life planned out down to the last detail. You should have a clear idea of what you want to do in life and everything should fall in place sequentially, leading to your ultimate goal. Now, I know that to make God laugh, just tell him those plans. Things happen albeit for a reason and at time you are put on hold for much longer than you anticipated. You can only give it your best shot and hope for things to fall in place. But I still believe that my destiny is in my hands.
Earlier I believed in the importance of education and thought that you can never stop learning either in school or from personal experiences. More time you spent in academics always helped you in the long run. Now….wait a sec, I still believe that.
Haven’t you changed?
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